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Why Do We Want People Who Don’t Want Us?
There is a peculiar cruelty in the human heart: the moment someone becomes truly available to us, our interest can quietly evaporate. And the moment they pull away, the wanting roars back to life.
We unpack the psychology of unavailability — how scarcity, early attachment, and the stories we tell ourselves about our own worth conspire to make us chase the very people least able to love us back.
Amara OkaforSenior Editor
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